Marriage in Islam
When one thinks of marriage, the usual focus is the wedding day. So much of planning goes in to making sure everything is just pretty as a beautiful picture. The hunt for the wedding dress is no simple affair either. Months, weeks, days and plenty of hours go behind finding the perfect one in terms of color, work and pattern. There is actual loss of sleep here. Even a lot of thought goes behind the wedding card which is just a piece of paper, a fancy invitation and most likely to be binned shortly after receiving or once the wedding is over. There will be very few who will treasure the card and preserve it and let’s face it, even if they do there is usually no time in one’s busy life to take out tokens of memory and go through them lovingly.
Main purpose of life
While there is no doubt that the wedding day is one the most important day of a person’s life and the memories behind it are the most precious ones, A Muslim must not lose focus on the main purpose of marriage which is to please Allah and to complete half of one’s faith.
Nikah is the way to Jannah
Through the Nikah, Allah puts mercy and love in the hearts of the husband and wife, which is a favor of Allah for which one needs to be extremely grateful.
While choosing your better half, the emphasis has to be religion. A religious spouse will help you on your way to Jannah. Correcting you and picking you up when you fall. He/ She will be your garment, covering up your flaws and weakness. They will help you to ensure that you do not lose sight of your ultimate goal that is pleasing Allah and through it entering the most beautiful and highest of gardens.
A very beautiful hadeeth depicts the value of a pious spouse and calls it the best property of a believer.
“The best property is a tongue which mentions Allah, a grateful heart, and a believing wife who helps a man with his faith.” (Ahmed, Tirmizi and Ibn Majah)
How to plan this big day?
So while you meticulously plan for your big day, ensure that before this you chose a pious partner so that you enjoy the goodness of both the worlds- this and the hereafter.
Be moderate in your spending and try to stick to the Sunnah as much as possible for your marriage to be blessed affair.
While tending to the frivolous parts of the wedding day, do not forget to cultivate your character and beautify it with Ihsan while paying due attention to the duties that Allah (Subhanahu wa taala) has outlined for you in the Qur’an which will enable you to live happily with your spouses forever bi iznillah and then be reunited with them in the most sweetest of reunion in Jannah.
A home that is built upon the remembrance of Allah will be a source of peace, happiness and delight.
So while you look forward to your big day with earnestness, remember to make this Dua with a mindful heart.
“Our Lord! Grant unto us spouses and offspring who will be the comfort of our eyes, and give us (the grace) to lead the righteous. (Rabbana hab lana min azwajina wa dhurriyatina qurrata a`yunin wa’j`alna li’l muttaqina imama)” [Qur’an, 25:74]
Such a comprehensive and beautiful Dua taught to us by our beloved Prophet Muhammad (Sallallahu Alaihi wa Sallam).